Breathe in, breathe out. Sometimes we all have rough days, or even weeks. At times we feel like the stress will never end. Dealing with sickness, tantrums, whining, fights, you name it and us mommies deal with it on almost a daily basis.
I remember a short time ago when things were mostly peaceful in my life. I am still trying to adjust to this new chaos. There are days when it really gets to me and I feel extremely overwhelmed and there are days when I can get through anything.
Our children are not perfect and neither are we. As mother’s sometimes we beat ourselves up for the way we handled a situation with our children. Let me repeat, you are not perfect!
So what is the best way to deal with the daily stress of being a good mom? Well, let’s go over a few options…
1. Talk it Out
This will always be one of my biggest tips when dealing with stress. If you have a partner, a good friend, a relative, or even a mommy forum to write on try getting out some of your stressful feelings. Find someone who you feel will listen to what you have to say and just get it out. You do not have to suffer in silence.
It can be beneficial in so many ways. Sometimes talking about how your children affect your life can actually make you a better mom. You can share tips on how to handle situations with whomever you decide to speak with. See it as a learning and bonding opportunity. It’s okay to vent a little. At the end of the day you will still love your children.
2. Step Away
It can be hard to step away for a moment to gather yourself, but if it helps you from hurting your child or saying something you don’t want to say do it.
If your child is still a baby set them in a safe place and go somewhere quiet for 2 minutes. It may be hard to do but you will be more caring toward your child upon return. Just make sure it is only a short time with a small baby so it doesn’t cause them too much distress.
With older children, tell them you will be back when you are able to help them better. You can go to your car for a moment or somewhere you feel you can get a moment of peace. If you can’t quite step away plug your ears for a minute and take a few deep breaths. Even plugging your ears can reduce stress significantly.
3. Be Grateful
Learning to be grateful for what you have in your life can have such a big positive impact. Every morning when you get up, before bed, or whenever you have a few minutes list three things you are grateful for. You can do a topic of the day or just anything that comes to mind. After a couple of weeks you will see your mood begin to shift. Each day will begin to feel more like a blessing.
Sometimes in our busy lives we get distracted with the stressful moments and forget all the wonderful things we have. This will help remind you. Don’t fret if you still have days that feel overwhelming. They are inevitable.
4. Be a Good Example
Your little one’s look to you for everything. They look to you for their basic needs and emotional needs. The best thing to remember is that you are their example for how to act in life. When you start to feel overwhelmed remind yourself of how you ultimately want your child to act in the same situation.
5. Quality Time
Our lives get busy, so busy in fact that sometimes we get distracted and don’t truly focus on what is happening. Your child may be acting out simply to get more attention. Carve out some time each day for you and each child. You can color with them, help them play with their bath toys, have a tickle fight, or read them a story. This will show them how important they really are. In turn their attitudes may take a turn for the better.
This can be a challenging task when you already have a lot on your plate, but it is well worth it is the end to sacrifice 15-30 minutes of your time to spend with your wonderful child. You can also see it as a good opportunity to take a break and refresh.
6. Carve out Some You Time
While it is important to spend some quality time with our children it is also important to spend quality time with none other than ourselves. Some good ways to take a little time for yourself is to take a 15 minute walk after supper, go to the gym a few nights a week, set up a night to get out once in a while, get to work early and just sit in your car, take a relaxing bath and make your partner watch the kids or wait until they go to bed. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time just enough so you feel a little more recharged. Make it a priority to take a few minutes for yourself each day.
7. Ask for Help
We all you that as a mom you are super mom, but sometimes it is okay to ask for some help. If you have a partner tell them you just need a few moments. If you have family close by ask them to take your child(ren) occasionally. If a friend is willing to help out great! Ask them too. Any help you can get is that much better.
While these tips may not work for everyone or every situation they can be a great starting point when you don’t quite know where to begin. The best thing you can do is to make some of these tips a habit. Write a few stress relieving tips on your mirror, put them in your schedule, put it as a reminder in your phone, or anything else you can think of.
Want some more tips to help with stress? Visit my other page that goes over some stress relieving techniques, 10 Out of the Box Ideas to Relieve Stress.